And even if we bitched and complained about changing schools and towns and having to learn a new language, our vibration was in agreement. My mother was following her intuition, but that intuition was in line with ours. If you look at this from a deeper, energy-based perspective, my sister and I could never have moved to America if we were not a vibrational match to it. One might assume that my mother, being the parent, made the decision to move continents, and my sister and I had no choice. This was a major life decision and one which impacted all of us for the rest of our lives. If the parents are following their intuition, they will be following a collective intuition – one that matches both their and their children’s vibration.įor example, when I was 9, my mother moved my sister and me from Germany to the US. The mother and father may think that they are making the decisions for the family, but just because their kids can’t verbally express their desires (and may, in fact even be expressing the opposite), their vibration is doing the talking for them. Parents and children are in this together – they are co-creating their realities. Leave the past in the past and focus on creating the present you really want.Īnd third, and most importantly, no one can create another’s reality. And if something doesn’t feel good, it doesn’t serve you. Does it feel good to think about your life this way? Does it serve you to blame yourself or your parents? No. But you can certainly mess up your present and your future by continuously judging your own or your parents’ past behavior.
All the dissecting and blaming and worrying will not change anything that has already happened. Second, the past is the past and can’t be changed. Why assume you or your parents made a mistake or that the path you were on wasn’t the best of the choices? The point is, you can’t know what would’ve happened and you never will. Perhaps, had you all not acted the way you did, life would’ve been much, much worse.
But the thing is, you have no idea what crap you avoided by making or being subject to the decisions you or your parents made. You may think that you know, but can you say with 100% certainty that life would’ve been better? A lot of the time, we assume that if we’d made a decision differently in the past, problems would’ve been avoided. Here’s why:įirst, you have no way of knowing how your or your child’s life would’ve turned out, had things gone differently. But I’m going to let the parents off the hook here. If only they had done this or that, been this way or that way, life would’ve surely been much easier. And children love to blame their parents for their problems. They blame themselves for any issues their children have. Could they have spared their children pain? Did their decisions cause irreparable scars in their offspring, forever condemning them to an emotionally stunted life of never ending resentment? Parents worry that they could’ve done a better job. When they’re adults, mom and dad worry that they could’ve or should’ve done countless things differently. When the kids are little, they worry that they’ll screw them up for life.
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More at Books and podcasts available at linktr.ee/johnlim Get "I Am a Professional Metalhead" Audiobook free with Audible trial (affiliate link) Audiobook on Apple Audiobooks Paperback or Kindle (affiliate link) Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, linktr.ee/johnlim = “Christmas Bells” by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (1863) I heard the bells on Christmas Day Their old, familiar carols play, And wild and sweet The words repeat Of peace on earth, good-will to men! And thought how, as the day had come, The belfries of all Christendom Had rolled along The unbroken song Of peace on earth, good-will to men! Till ringing, singing on its way, The world revolved from night to day, A voice, a chime, A chant sublime Of peace on earth, good-will to men! Then from each black, accursed mouth The cannon thundered in the South, And with the sound The carols drowned Of peace on earth, good-will to men! It was as if an earthquake rent The hearth-stones of a continent, And made forlorn The households born Of peace on earth, good-will to men! And in despair I bowed my head "There is no peace on earth," I said "For hate is strong, And mocks the song Of peace on earth, good-will to men!" Then pealed the bells more loud and deep: "God is not dead, nor doth He sleep The Wrong shall fail, The Right prevail, With peace on earth, good-will to men.It’s a parent’s job to worry. On this holiday episode, I do a reading of "Christmas Bells" by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, written in 1865.
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